Q. I am addicted to masturbation. I cannot help myself and I am only 13 years old.
A: You should seek counsel with a learned Aalim, pious person in your area, who can assist and advise you. This is a devastating sickness that takes long to cure. Ponder over the physical harms of this sinful act, as well as the spiritual harms. One who excessively commits this act, will lose his manhood (ability to have sex with a woman) at an early age and will thus not be physically fit for marriage in later life. Masturbation causes the eyes and memory to become weak; it disrupts the body’s digestive system thus always causing build up of winds.
Imam Ataa’ (rahmatullahi alayh) was asked regarding this. He replied: “A group of people will be resurrected on Qiyamat while their hands will be pregnant. They are those who had been doing this act and did not repent (before death). Their fault will be witnessed by everyone on Qiyamat Day.”
Hazrat Sa’eed bin Jubayr (rahmatullahi alayh) says that Allah will punish those people who fiddle with their private parts.
Refrain from reading literature and books that describe sexual acts or that contain pictures of naked and semi naked women. Avoid all forms of pornographic material, as well as websites that show these filth. Read Deeni books to build up within you the love and fear of Allah. Sit alone a few minutes every day thinking about the Power and Punishment of Allah. Spend a lot of time in the company of an elderly Aalim or pious person. Ponder regularly over these points and seek advice from a learned person you trust. Make thikr of these words as much as possible:
لاَ حَوْلَ وَ لاَ قُوَّةَ اِلاَّ بِالله
Trans: There is no power to do good, nor strength to abstain from evil, but with Allah.
May Allah Ta’ala assist you in your fight against this evil, aameen.
